
The podcast is where I first came across her – it’s won a British Podcast Award, a Gracie Award in the States and was named as the Number One podcast by GQ. She has released two fascinating podcast series, called Where Should We Begin?, where listeners get to listen in on real-life couples having therapy with her. Aside from her clinical work – she counsels around 12 couples or individuals each week – she has two best-selling books: one about maintaining desire in long-term relationships ( Mating in Captivity), the other about infidelity ( The State of Affairs). This video is compelling to watch for anyone who has loved and perhaps needs to heal from an affair.Ĭlick below to watch the whole presentation.Perel is a practising couples and family therapist who lives in New York. “ Betrayal in a relationship comes in many forms.”.“ Every affair will redefine a relationship, and every couple will determine what the legacy of the affair will be.”.
“ I’ve also told quite a few of my patients that if they could bring into their relationships one-tenth of the boldness, the imagination and the verve that they put into their affairs, they probably would never need to see me.”. “S ome affairs are death knells for relationships that were already dying on the vine.”. “Death and mortality often live in the shadow of an affair.”. “Affairs are way less about sex, and a lot more about desire: desire for attention, desire to feel special, desire to feel important.”. “Affairs are an act of betrayal, and they are also an expression of longing and loss.”. Today, monogamy is one person at a time.” “Monogamy used to be one person for life. These were some of my favourite quotes from her presentation: So I was thrilled to be able to watch her latest TEDTalk on the topic of infidelity and was not disappointed by her brilliant, interesting and thought-provoking take on this modern-day phenomenon that affects so many relationships. I’ve also participated in online couple therapy training with Esther Perel and Terry Real, which has only reinforced my thoughts that Esther Perel is a world thought-leader in the area of relationships, sexuality and desire.Įsther Perel has the ability to take complex ideas and bring fascinating and novel perspectives to controversial topics like sexual desire and infidelity. She wowed audiences with her 2013 TEDSalon talk in New York called The Secret to Desire in a Long-Term Relationship, so it’s no surprise she was invited to speak at the much larger and prestigious TEDTalk in Vancouver, March of 2015.
I have been a huge fan of Esther Perel ever since her groundbreaking book published in 2007 called Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence.